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There are many rules that govern our friendships as girls. Most of them unwritten – unspoken even. These rules define friendship no-no’s or no go areas, things that every girl should inherently know.
In part one of the rules of sisterhood, I will start by bringing some of our clueless sisters up to speed with the rules that govern how you relate with your girlfriend’s ex.
Breaking up is probably one of the most difficult things that a girl has to go through. Whether she is the dumper or the dumped, it hurts all the same.
This is, therefore, one of the few times in your friendship that you get to prove how committed a friend you are. Reason being that, your friend will be ranting, crying, wanting to stay up all night and talk, even throwing tantrums, and most of the time, you will have more interesting things to do than listen to her go on and on – but you have to be there for her.
Who knows, the same thing could happen to you, and you will need her to be there for you. So, in the spirit of sisterhood, here are the basic rules that define some of the things you should or should not do when it comes to relating with your girl’s ex-boyfriend.
Rule number One
Your girl’s ex-boyfriend (s) can no longer be your friend(s). It doesn’t matter how tight you and the guy were when they were dating (remember that being tight with your gal’s boyfriend is kind of fishy) but when they break up, you have to take sides.
You cannot have the gal and the ex. If your girl’s decides never to say hi to her ex again, you, too, should keep your distance. You cannot continue being pally-wally with him even if you were good friends before.
And unless you have an ulterior motive, continuing to be friends with the guy behind her back is totally fishy. That’s just the way it is. Be polite and respectful and end it at that.
Rule Number Two
You should never EVER EVER admit that his new girlfriend is kinda hot. If the new girl is hotter, it’s probably obvious to everyone – including your girl’s – so don’t rub it in.
And if you ever bump your head on a wall and suffer temporary insanity (which is the only situation under which you are allowed to admit that the new gal is hotter) you must then disqualify the statement with something that totally disqualifies the hotness.
For example: His new girl is kind of hot but she has weird legs, or she looks kinda old. Anything to make your girl feel better.
Rule Number Three
If your girl’s ex ever asks you how she is doing. The answer should always be ‘Pretty fine by the way’.
Unless your girl’s expressly requests you to let her ex know that she hasn’t slept in three weeks, she has put on 10 kilos and her hair is a total mess, you must never admit that she is miserable.
Rule Number Four
If your girl’s ex tries to hit on you – and this should not even be happening since I am assuming that you no longer pick up his phone calls or even poke him back.
But if, for some reason, it ever happens, run for the hills! Unless you do not know where your loyalties lie, you are not allowed to even enjoy any kind of attention you receive from her ex. It’s just wrong.
Rule number Five
Last but not least, you are never allowed to admit to your girl that by breaking up with the man, she lost as seriously hot catch – no matter how much you think it.
This is your one and only chance to fish for something you didn’t like about the guy and tell her.
Reason being that, if she really made a mistake, she probably already knows that or will discover it on her own in due course.
Note
Remember not to be too expressive with the hating just in case they make up; you don’t want to be the enemy.
Sometimes in our enthusiasm to show solidarity to our girlfriend, we say all the nasty things we can think of about the man only for the two to reconcile later.
Think of how awkward it will be for you to be in the same company as him. Be sure that, in the process of making up, she will tell him all the nasty things you said about him.
Source: Daily Nation
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